💔💔💔 my heart aches.

Please allow yourself time to grieve, and hurt, and to feel anger.

Take breaks when you need to, but don’t push them away.

Our feelings are there for a reason; to tell us something.

As I process mine, I’m deciding who I want to be moving forward.

What do I truly value in this life?

What am I willing to give up or take on to live by those values?

It’s past time for a change, and that change must start with me.

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If I looked to my past to tell me what I’m capable of, I’d still be an overworked news anchor or living on autopilot in the corporate world.

Why limit your future based on your past?

Learn and take what you need from the past and leave the rest.

Your #past is over. It can’t affect you anymore without your permission.

From this moment on, the #future is yours for the taking.

So, who do you want to be? What do you want to create?

To start, tell me one thing you want in your future that’s different from what you have now. Make sure it’s within your control. If it’s hard to think of something, you haven’t flexed this part of your #brain in a while. Stick with it. ...

Stop scrolling and tend to yourself for just a moment.

Allow your nervous system to relax by focusing on the here and now.

The more you can bring yourself to the present moment, the more you retrain your brain to stop spiraling or repeating past, unhelpful programming.

Being present also allows you to see solutions and possibilities more clearly.

So, just for a moment, try not to worry or stress about the #future.

Stop analyzing what happened in the #past.

Let your thoughts pass by like cars on a road.

Take a deep breath.

Be right here, in this moment, right now.

Notice the sensations in your body.

Maybe one more breath.

Each time you return to the #present moment, you are teaching yourself how to self-regulate.

When you do, notice what’s in your control and what’s not.

And then, decide how you want to spend your #time. ♥️ ...

I’m more than two years alcohol-free, and last weekend I thought about drinking again.

I went to a wedding solo and wondered if alcohol would help me have more fun.

But I’ve learned not to believe everything my brain tells me.

I challenged myself to define what fun means to me.

Is it fun to numb my senses to avoid uncomfortable feelings? Or could I actually handle the temporary discomfort?

Perhaps fun is more about connecting with others, listening, and being #present.

I decided having fun included the awkward moments on the dance floor, feeling anxious and knowing nothing was wrong, taking silly pictures, leaving when I was ready, and remembering it all the next day.

Fun to me is experiencing life exactly as it is.

Plus, it gives me #confidence knowing I can handle any situation and any emotion without an external fix.

I used to think life wouldn’t be fun without #alcohol. Now, I’m living my best life without it. ♥️ ...

You feel a certain way about someone based on how you’re choosing to think about them.

How do your current thoughts about that person make you feel?

If you’ve been thinking the same way about someone for a long time, you may believe your thoughts are the truth. That there’s no other way to think about that person.

You always have a choice.

Consider how your commitment to thinking this way affects YOUR emotional #health, #time, and #energy.

Start seeing your thoughts as optional by getting curious. Ask how are my current thoughts helping me? Why am I so attached to believing them? Where else do these thoughts show up in my life?

I work with women ready to break unhelpful patterns, engage with their lives, and create futures they genuinely want through private and group coaching.

Sign up at link in bio and we’ll talk about how I can support you best. ...

Do you ever think you don’t know what you want in life?

You may be stuck in a pattern of living for other people.

It’s when you often feel obligated to do things, but it’s at your own expense.

Instead of following your actual desires, you make choices based on what others might think or how you believe your life ‘should’ be.

You spend more time trying to control other people’s experiences of you than understanding who you really are.

I’m starting a group #coaching class in June. It’s for #women ready to break unhelpful #habits, engage with their lives again, and create #futures they genuinely want.

Click 'group coaching' at the link in bio to sign onto the waitlist so you’ll be the first to know when spots open up. 🤍 ...