You might be surprised to learn that the people who annoy you most have something you secretly want.

They’re so bold. Or loud. Or unapologetically proud.

Or perhaps they’re too nice. Too chill. Too unbothered.

Our triggers can often point to a part of us that wants to wake up.

Ask yourself:
- What part of me is getting poked right now?
- Do they have something I’ve been taught to tone down?
- What would it be like to explore that part of me?

Your irritation might be an invitation. I can help you answer it. 💙

It takes courage to love yourself unconditionally. To believe you belong here just as you are.

The real gift of life is not about proving our value—it’s about expressing it.

Not to earn love or respect, but to revel in the joy of being alive.

We #create, #connect, and #grow not to become “enough,” but because it’s a beautiful way to experience and explore who we already are.

You don’t have to earn your value, you just have to remember it. 🩵

You’re not broken. You’re just healing.

And you’re doing better than you think. ❤️‍🩹

Confidence isn’t about proving.

It’s about knowing.

And the more you know yourself, the less you need to be above anyone else.

Here are some questions to help get to know yourself better:

- What values do I want to live by, even when it’s hard? (Google a list of core values and pick your top three - this is powerful work)
- Who am I when I’m not trying to impress anyone?
- What drains me? What lightens me up?
- What version of me am I outgrowing?
- What’s one area of life where I want to take my power back?

You got this, babe. 💪

Feeling triggered is not a failure.

But when we stay stuck in that emotional charge, that’s when we tend to shut down, lash out, or reach for habits that don’t help.

Here’s what I’ve learned to do instead.

When I feel that charge in my body, I pause and ask: “Is this a real threat…or just a trigger?”

Then I name it: “Okay, I’m getting activated. I’m triggered.”

From there, I do my best to self-regulate—
Sometimes I slow my breathing.
Or excuse myself for a moment.
Other times, I take in my surroundings, notice something good or comforting, instead of focusing on what set me off.
I remind myself: there’s no real danger right now.

Once my body settles, my rational brain comes back online, and I can move from there.

This is how I respond more and react less.

With practice, it gets easier to interrupt your triggers and come back to yourself.

If you’re tired of reacting in ways that don’t feel like you, don’t hesitate to reach out for support.

Your body isn’t here to meet your expectations.

It’s here to keep you alive.

You can ignore it. Hate it. Punish it.

Or you can work with it.

When you truly care for something, you relate to it.

You listen to it. You protect it the best you can.

Our bodies aren’t a project to fix or a machine to control.

They deserve kindness, rest, and respect.

Thank your body for getting you around.

Ask what it needs from you. Acknowledge it.

Treat it like you would a beloved pet or favorite plant.

What would change if you treated your body like something that depends on you, loves you, and wants to work with you — not against you? 🩵

Ever notice how easy it is to know what everyone else wants from you but not what you want?

We’re raised to follow rules. Meet expectations. Fit in.

It makes sense that we may question our own instincts.

Have you ever asked yourself, ‘What would I want if no one else had an opinion?’

Not what you think sounds impressive.
Not what your family would approve of.
Just… what you want.

The answer might not show up right away.

That’s okay. There’s no rush.

Silence helps. Space helps. Curiosity helps.

You don’t need to have it all figured out right away—but let’s start listening. 💓

You don’t have to stay stuck because it’s familiar.

Fear is loud, but it doesn’t get the final say.

What’s one small step you could take this week to stretch yourself?

I’m more than five years alcohol-free.

What helped me was realizing I wasn’t out of control–I had simply trained my brain to overdesire alcohol.

This happens with sweets, social media, smoking–concentrated pleasures that trick our brains into wanting more, until it feels almost automatic.

But if we created the desire, we have the power to uncreate it.

Cravings aren’t the problem. It’s that no one has taught us how to handle them.

I used to either give in to my urges to drink or resist them with willpower, which inevitably ran out.

That kind of resistance teaches your brain that cravings are a threat, instead of sensations you can observe, allow, and handle.

I started witnessing my cravings without judgment–letting them be there without wishing them away or rewarding them.

It’s learning how to feel a difficult emotion without reacting to it. It’s about connecting with yourself instead of disconnecting.

Eventually, the cravings lose their power. They start to fade.

Today, I have zero desire for alcohol. You are stronger than you think. #Change is #possible. I’m always here to #help.

In the beginning of our lives, we have direction, structure, and things we’re ‘supposed’ to do–go to school, find a job, settle down…but later on, life becomes more vague, less certain.

Sometimes we’re left wondering, “What now?”

We’ve become so accustomed to doing what we’re told, we get out of practice of choosing for ourselves.

Eventually, we have to go within and decide what we want.

There’s a wealth of information inside you. We just have to start listening.

Consider this: how much of your life was truly your idea?

Are you comfortable with that answer?

Try creating a private “Want List.” It’s a space for the goals you dream about, desires that excite you, your gut feelings, possibilities that tug at your soul.

Let this list be your compass and let it remind you that your instincts and dreams are worth trusting. Use it as fuel for motivation, action, and positive change.

Your voice matters most. It’s time to start listening. 💪💜