Whenever we ask, “What if it all goes wrong?” we imagine a future based on fear, not facts. It’s easy to get lost in the worst-case scenario and let it paralyze you from taking action.

Here are a few steps to break free from the “what if” loop:

1. Acknowledge your fear, don’t ignore it: It’s okay to feel scared. Fear is just your brain trying to protect you. But you are stronger than your fear.

2. Flip the script: For every “What if this goes wrong?” counter it with, “How could this be the opportunity I’ve been waiting for?”

3. Take one small action: Break your #goal into bite-sized steps. The first might be as simple as writing down what you can control today. Moving forward, even in the smallest ways, disrupts the loop.

4. Find evidence of success: Look around and find examples of people who’ve faced similar fears and still succeeded. You are not alone in this.

5. Practice compassion with yourself: It’s okay to be unsure. It’s okay to not have it all figured out. You’re doing the best you can right now, and that’s enough.

Remember: Your story doesn’t have to be written by what might happen—it can be shaped by what you do today. #Trust yourself, take a breath, and choose your next step #forward.

If you’re fixated on worst-case scenarios, you’ll invite unnecessary distress into your life and relationships.

The key to stopping this spiral is accepting that these scenarios might occur.

How would you handle yourself? How would you care for others? How would you want to show up?

The more you can trust yourself, the less you’ll panic, because the truth is, we aren’t supposed to know the future.

Our anxiety often comes from thinking we should know and trying to figure out a way to control the uncontrollable.

Concentrate on what you can #influence, #believe you can make an #impact, and be careful not to paralyze yourself with catastrophic thinking. I’m here if you need #support. ♥️

Do you compare and despair?

I used to focus on what others had that I didn’t.

Have I done enough? Am I enough?

But when you think something is wrong with you, you stop looking for what’s right with you.

What if the things you dislike about yourself or are fighting are simply where you are right now? And what if that’s okay?

People will always have varying degrees of ability, money, and privilege, but we don’t have to make that mean something bad about us.

There’s power in learning to accept all of you.

Remember, what exists within you exists within all of us – it’s just different degrees and variations.

When I feel stuck in comparison, I try leaning into it instead. How can this person #inspire me? How can they show me what’s possible for my life?

I help women accept where they are so they can decide to change (or not) from a place of #strength and #empowerment.

It takes courage to stand up for yourself, use your voice, and take up space.

Sometimes, that means disappointing others, and for people-pleasers, that’s no small feat.

Many of us are used to quieting our needs to keep the peace. But the alternative to disappointing others is often disappointing ourselves.

How can we hear our own voice or know what we truly want if we’re always focused on what others expect?

The solution is to build a sense of safety from within and learn to support ourselves, even when our choices aren’t popular with everyone else.

Every day, I help #women build more #confidence and #courage. DM me to join my waitlist for private #coaching and start building a life that honors your voice. 💪♥️

Love is a choice, not a reward.

So often, we wait for people to change to earn our love. But in that waiting, we set ourselves up for disappointment and disconnection.

When we continuously focus on their faults or proving a point, it’s much harder to be at peace. We can inadvertently create walls and plant seeds of shame and guilt.

Instead, what if we listened more to the people in our lives and met them with compassion and curiosity? This would allow for openness, honesty, and a chance to learn more about each other and ourselves.

Instead of trying to control the uncontrollable (how they decide to show up), let’s focus on what we can control (how we want to show up).

We can always set boundaries when necessary and protect ourselves, but I’m increasingly choosing connection over control.

I keep asking, ‘how do I want to show up?’ Instead of, ‘how do I wish they’d show up?’ The answer often illuminates a path to deeper, more fulfilling #relationships. 💙

We aren’t meant to know our future, and thinking we should fuels our anxiety.

Instead of spiraling, pause. Breathe. Allow your anxiety to be there, and gently redirect your focus to what’s in your control.

How do you want to show up today? What small steps are in your power?

Remember, our brains love to oversimplify and think in black-and-white terms, which can keep us spinning in fear. Challenge yourself to think of other possibilities.

What if, because of this experience, you gain new wisdom? What if it opens doors to show up in ways you’ve never tried before?

Keep trusting yourself. You can handle whatever hard things happen in your life—the highs and the lows. You know how to take care of yourself. You know how to be there for your family. You are capable of more than you think.

Let your resilience ground and strengthen you.

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Ever felt crushed by someone’s words? Let’s change that perspective.

There’s what someone says, and then there’s what you think about it.

People’s words don’t hold power over us; we give power to their words, or not, based on how we think about them.

Consider that their words reflect more about them than they do about you.

You can be curious and look for the truth in what they say, but it’s okay if you don’t find any.

We can’t control what others say, but we can control what their words mean to us.

Remember, you always get to decide what to believe about yourself—no one else.

I help #women #learn how to #love themselves so they don’t have to rely on others to do it for them. ♥️

Our greatest ROI often comes from efforts that require us to fail.

When we can maintain our belief in ourselves, setbacks transform into lessons and feedback.

They’re how we gain wisdom, experience, and self-knowledge.

It’s not failure itself that we fear—but what we think it means about us.

No matter what happens, make a #commitment to keep believing in yourself.

You are stronger and more #resilient than you think.

I help #women overcome their fears and self-doubt, bet on themselves, and go after what they truly want in life. What’s one failure that has taught you valuable lessons?

Self-discipline sets you free. It’s a form of self-love.

When you can set a schedule and stick to it, you become more present in everything you do.

Take planning your week seriously. Give yourself an hour on Sunday to map out your calendar.

When it’s time to follow through, expect resistance from your brain. It will fight for what’s easy. Stay focused on the next step, and move through that resistance. Don’t buy into the excuses.

At first, I rarely wanted to stick to my schedule. My brain argued for other priorities or to stay on the couch, but I persisted.

Every time I honored my word to myself, I built more self-trust. Now, if it’s on my calendar, I know I’ll get it done. I accomplish more in a week than I used to in a month.

Coaching isn’t just about feeling better; it’s about #growth and building #resilience. It’s about becoming who you most want to be. If you’re interested in #coaching, DM me to get on my waitlist today.

Resentment is toxic, and it often sprouts from our own decisions—not just the actions of others.

For example, when we say yes out of obligation, fear, or guilt, we plant a seed of resentment.

Each time we say yes when we want to say no, we water that seed, allowing it to grow and drain our energy.

Here’s how to break the cycle:

1. Recognize the seed: When you feel resentment, pause and identify the decision that led to it. This is your opportunity for self-reflection.

2. Ask yourself: “What do I really want here?” Get clear on your desires and boundaries.

3. Own your choices: Remember, you can say no. It’s okay to prioritize your needs over others’ expectations.

4. Take action: Instead of waiting for others to meet your needs, think about how you can fulfill those desires for yourself.

5. Set boundaries: Practice saying no when something doesn’t serve you. Start small, and gradually build your #confidence.

By making these shifts, you can start living for yourself. Your needs matter, and you have the ability to choose your path.