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KATIE STOLP MASTER CERTIFIED COACH

KATIE STOLP MASTER CERTIFIED COACH

KATIE STOLP MASTER CERTIFIED COACH

Critical self-talk? Constantly over-analyzing? Addicted to approval? Endless compare and despair?

You’re in the right place.

I’m Katie Stolp. As a Master Certified Coach, with a practice grounded in cognitive psychology and science-based solutions, I help women let go of self-defeating thoughts, believe in their strengths, and breakthrough to authentic confidence in their careers and lives.

Transform self-critical thoughts

Transform self-critical thoughts

Learn to love yourself

Develop lasting self-confidence

Develop lasting self-confidence

Experience life in the biggest way

Let go of the fear & shame that holds you back

Let go of the fear & shame that holds you back

Look forward and create

Drop the people-pleasing behaviors

Drop the people-pleasing behaviors

Be authentically you

Critical self-talk? Constantly over-analyzing? Addicted to approval? Endless compare and despair?

You’re in the right place.

I’m Katie Stolp. As a Master Certified Coach, with a practice grounded in cognitive psychology and science-based solutions, I help women let go of self-defeating thoughts, believe in their strengths, and breakthrough to authentic confidence in their careers and lives.

Transform self-critical thoughts

Transform self-critical thoughts

Learn to love yourself

Develop lasting self-confidence

Develop lasting self-confidence

Experience life in the biggest way

Let go of the fear & shame that holds you back

Let go of the fear & shame that holds you back

Look forward and create

Drop the people-pleasing behaviors

Drop the people-pleasing behaviors

Be authentically you

Testimonials

I wasn’t sure what coaching would be like but from the minute we started, there was a natural flow that has led down countless paths of awareness, insight, and growth. Katie has helped me see myself, know myself, and believe in myself. My mind, ego, and heart have been witnessed and cared for in a way I have never experienced before. Working with Katie will change your life — it is what you have been waiting for and what you didn’t even know you needed and wanted.

Keri

Client

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Katie has been able to completely change my thought patterns, my habits, and my views on self-confidence. She is as authentic as it gets and is not afraid to challenge you to bring out the inner badass you really are. I highly recommend working with Katie, especially if you're looking to train your mind and that voice in your head that we hear from more than anyone else.

Taylor

Client

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I truly trust Katie's motivations and insights. She is giving, encouraging, and kind. Katie is re-igniting within myself the power I possess to realize my purpose. I highly recommend her for anyone seeking sound guidance around a professional or personal "leveling up!"

Charlotte M.

Client

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Katie was the most incredible coach and helped me evolve into a version of myself I absolutely love. My relationships with colleagues, family, and friends have dramatically improved. I feel clear, happier, and more focused. Most importantly, I have learned about true, authentic self-love, which is HUGE for me.

Charlotte R.

Client

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Katie took me to new levels of self-confidence and performance after feeling beat up from the corporate world. I was a classic overthinker and people-pleaser, and struggled with self-doubt. I now feel this inner strength I've been missing for years. I'm at my best again. Thank you, Katie! She’s a lot of fun too!

Tina

Client

Testimonials

I had been stuck in a holding pattern and needed to get out of my head. I implemented Katie's coaching right away and noticed a huge difference in how I became more patient and accepting of myself. I started taking action toward creating the life I wanted from a place of confidence and certainty. I now see myself, as well as my company, as a 3.0 version rather than stuck at 1.0.

Jessica

Client

Carolyn

I trust Katie. I can tell her anything and she never judges me. Our work has been challenging but I love it. My relationships have transformed. My Dad no longer has control over how I feel and act, but most importantly I’m confident, I know I’m worthy, and I realize I’m a catch. I've learned to love myself, something I never thought possible.

Carolyn

Client

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About Me

I spent more than two decades struggling with confidence and feeling like I was never enough until I found solutions that finally worked for good. Now, I’m on a mission to help other women breakthrough to authentic confidence, live their best lives and change the world. Think of me as a supportive, non-judgmental friend who gives great guidance and teaches you how to act on it. It often takes someone outside our own mind to help see things we can’t see ourselves. We’ll create lasting results that will change your life. Why? Because you are capable of so much more than you think.

About Me

I spent more than two decades struggling with confidence and feeling like I was never enough until I found solutions that finally worked for good. Now, I’m on a mission to help other women breakthrough to authentic confidence, live their best lives and change the world. Think of me as a supportive, non-judgmental friend who gives great guidance and teaches you how to act on it. It often takes someone outside our own mind to help see things we can’t see ourselves. We’ll create lasting results that will change your life. Why? Because you are capable of so much more than you think.
You’re never starting over.
 
What we learn in one area of life transfers to countless others.

That means no experience is wasted.
 
You know SO much more than you think you do - just because you’ve lived!

For example, if you’ve ever had a job, you’ve learned responsibility, meeting deadlines, time management, navigating difficult conversations, problem-solving, adaptability…the list goes on.
 
You can transfer those #skills to something new.
 
Let’s also normalize facing obstacles and setbacks on your journey. They are not signs of failure; they’re indicators that you’re #learning, growing, and becoming stronger.
 
All of your experiences are valuable.⚡️
 
You are much more capable and #qualified than you think. ♥️
A lot of times the things we want most from others - appreciation, respect, validation - we aren’t giving to ourselves. 

You first. ♥️

We must learn to give ourselves the #approval and love that we’re seeking. 

When you can manage your life internally, you stop giving so much power to external things and people over how you feel.

Learn to #love yourself and have your own back, even when others can’t. 

I help #women build a safe, nurturing, and loving place from within, so no matter what happens, they always know their way back home. 🫶

If you’re curious about coaching and want to see how this is possible for you, sign up for a discovery call at the link in my bio. 💞
What would you do if you believed with 100% certainty that you would eventually achieve your goal? 

Usually, when we set a big goal for ourselves, our brain seizes up and tells us why it won’t work. We’re flooded with ‘what ifs’ and worry. 

Our brain tells us to be more realistic or reasonable, i.e., more comfortable. 

So, we scale back, procrastinate, or second-guess ourselves. We decide it’s too hard and stop making progress.

We fail ahead of time. 

What if, instead, we expected to fail - and decided to keep believing in our goal no matter what? 

If you think about it, failing often is how we achieve most great things. It’s how we gain wisdom, experience, and self-knowledge. 

When you hold onto your belief in yourself and your goals no matter what, you see failure as part of the process. Setbacks become lessons, and you keep making progress. 

What if you can do this? You will do this. Keep going and keep believing in yourself. ♥️

The only way to fail is to quit. ⚡️
It’s natural to want to avoid awkwardness—those cringe-worthy moments when you think everyone is looking at you. Or that you’re getting it wrong. What will they think?

But pretty soon, that desire for outside approval starts to outweigh our desire to go after what we want most. Our fear starts to hold us back.

So, what if we build a tolerance for awkward moments instead?

Think of it as a daily practice, and start by doing things that make you a little uncomfortable. Speak up in a meeting, share something vulnerable with friends, attend a networking event, or talk to a stranger.

It may be challenging at first, but so is staying stagnant.
 
If you were willing to feel awkward, you’d likely take more #risks, make more #decisions, and give up those approval-seeking tendencies.

You’d know the worst thing that could happen is a temporary, uncomfortable feeling you can handle.

One of the secrets to self-confidence is a willingness to feel any emotion. ⚡
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It’s a skill that takes practice.

So, let’s collect more awkward moments. They don’t undermine your authority; they increase your humanity. ♥️
 
I help women build more #confidence so they can experience life in the biggest way.
Sometimes, I get so focused on what’s wrong in the world or what could be better in my life that those thoughts turn into patterns, almost like tunnel vision.

When we continue to judge or doubt ourselves, we feel disempowered and then act disempowered.

We disconnect from our own feelings, insights, and intelligence and look outside of ourselves for what to do with our lives - we think others must know better because we start to feel broken. 

Focusing on what’s wrong can become a subconscious habit that keeps us from seeing the good right in front of our faces.

But like any #habit, we can break it. Our minds just need some supervision and direction. Without it, you can get stuck in blame/complain mode and see everything as happening to you.

Here’s something you can try each week – come up with three things that went well. What did you like about how you showed up? What are you proud of? Nothing is too small or insignificant.

We will always be works in progress. The truth is we get to do life imperfectly or not at all. And judgment of ourselves is entirely optional. 

You have good instincts that you can trust. 🙌

Remember that your mind looks for evidence to prove your current beliefs true every day. I can show you how to be more deliberate in your thinking and your life to get the results you want. Go to the link in my bio for more on private coaching. ♥️
There is nothing more human than caring what other people think about us. 

We all yearn to be seen, understood, and accepted. 

This desire for social approval has been ingrained in us through centuries of evolution - it used to be crucial for our survival. Thankfully, in today’s world, the need for social acceptance is not nearly as relevant to our survival as it once was. 

The power to not care what others think is in how you think about yourself.

Other people’s thoughts are irrelevant until we take them on as our own.

Their thoughts don’t matter as much as the thoughts you have about yourself and your life.

Here are a few intentional thoughts for you to try on:

 - Other people’s thoughts about me are none of my business
 - Other people are allowed to be wrong about me
 - Knowing who I truly am is my responsibility and no one else’s

Ultimately, we can’t control what people think or say about us. And any effort to do so can prevent us from being who we really are.

If you face hate or rejection from someone, make sure not to reject yourself—that will only compound the negativity. 

Instead, focus on understanding and accepting yourself - this is where your true #power lies. 

A #coach can #help. ♥️
Is the way you think about yourself serving you? 

Try this: 

Take five minutes today to write down what’s on your mind—like a stream-of-consciousness thought download. What do you believe about yourself? About your life? 

When you’ve finished, circle the facts only. Facts are things everyone in the world would agree are true.

What’s left uncircled are the stories you’re telling yourself. 

Are your thoughts useful? Are they helping you get the results you want? 

Do you know these thoughts are optional?

If your thoughts aren’t serving you, why stay committed to them? 

What else could be true? 

Awareness is the first step; hiring a #coach to #help you untangle the thoughts holding you back and create new ones to get the #results you want might be the next.💛
I’m thrilled to announce that I’ve been selected as a mentor for @sxsw!

If you’re going and curious about coaching or would like to discuss anything that’s holding you back, let’s meet up. 💛

Info on the session here: https://schedule.sxsw.com/2024/speakers/2196243
Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect, understanding, and authenticity. 

The more rules you keep about how your partner should behave to make you feel good, the more you set yourself up to feel bad. 

I’m not saying to suppress your desires; we should communicate them openly and respectfully. 

And allow your partner to decide how they want to think and feel about your requests. 

Not everything will align perfectly. Some things may not be a ‘want match,’ and that’s okay.

Instead of expecting them to change or having them show up as a weird version of themselves who’s trying to please you, consider exploring ways to fulfill those needs for yourself or with other sources of support. 

When you can meet your own needs, it takes so much pressure off your relationships.

Genuine #connection flourishes when both partners feel safe to be themselves. 

My clients and I focus on creating a trusting and nurturing home from within so we can show up whole in our #relationships and #love even deeper. 💚
When you learn how to love and respect yourself, it shows up in all areas of your life. 

We often fall out of practice of accepting and knowing ourselves. We start to swim in negative and unhelpful thoughts and patterns.

It’s no wonder we end up here. We constantly absorb messages about living seemingly perfect lives, so it’s easy to beat ourselves up and focus on what’s wrong.

Women, in particular, are taught that our value is tied to how well we please, nurture, and recognize everyone around us, which often means we ignore and overlook ourselves. 

These are habits worth breaking.

Loving yourself is a radical act.

And it’s a skill that anyone can learn. 

Loving yourself is not about what you do; it’s an acknowledgment, appreciation, and deep #connection of who you are. 

Start by meeting yourself exactly where you are today.

Drop all the ‘shoulds’ and remember that we will always be #learning and evolving.

What feels like self-love to you? Every day, write something down. Did you act on it? Why or why not?

If you’re curious about #coaching and want to learn the skill of self-love, sign up for a discovery call with me at the link in bio ♥️

I help high-achieving women care less about what others think and own their power.

Are you ready to take your career, relationships, and life to the next level?