I used to be consumed with frustration over how wrong someone in my life was. I’d replay interactions, vent about them, and hold onto my resentment like it was my duty.

But here’s what I had to realize: my frustration wasn’t punishing them—it was punishing me.

I was distracted, drained, and stuck in a cycle of negativity that was making my life worse. Meanwhile, they kept living their life.

I couldn’t evict them from my life, but I could stop letting them live rent-free in my head.

If you’re struggling with someone, I want to offer you a mental shift—a way to take your energy back without needing them to change.

Try on these thought reframes and see which one helps lighten the load:

✨ Instead of: “They shouldn’t be this way.”
✅ Try: “They are who they are. I can control how I respond, how much energy I give this relationship, and how I think about myself.”

✨ Instead of: “They’re ruining my life.”
✅ Try: “They only affect me as much as I allow.”

✨ Instead of: “I have to stay upset, or I’m letting them off the hook.”
✅ Try: “They will continue to be who they are. Letting go of this frustration is for ME, not them.”

✨ Instead of: “They’ll never change, and that’s so unfair.”
✅ Try: “I don’t need them to change for me to feel at peace. I am in charge of my emotions, not them.”

✨ Instead of: “They’re wrong or bad.”
✅ Try: “Their behavior is a reflection of them, not a verdict on me. What do I think about me?”

When you take ownership of your thoughts, you reclaim your emotional freedom. The situation may not #change, but YOU do. And that’s where your #power is.

What’s one thought you can shift today to lighten your mental load? ♥️

When we compare ourselves to others, it often feels like we’re falling short.

It’s not the other person causing us discomfort, though; it’s the story we tell ourselves when we compare.

You might think, “Why is it so easy for them?” or “I should be farther along,” or “I’m not enough.”

Those thoughts are what’s causing you pain.

To feel better, the other person doesn’t have to change a thing. You have to change your story about yourself.

Here are some ways to rewrite your story:

Reflect on Your Values: What do you truly care about? Why? Is there a small step you can take toward something that would make you feel proud?

Unfollow Accounts That Trigger Comparison: If certain people or pages leave you feeling inadequate, it’s time for a digital detox. Follow accounts that inspire you and reflect the person you want to be.

Start a ‘Win’ Document: We tend to focus on what we lack or what others are achieving. Try recognizing your own progress, even if it feels awkward at first. Start a “win” document or journal and jot down even the smallest victories each day.

When you find yourself comparing and despairing, pause and gently redirect your focus to something more productive. It’s a habit worth breaking. You got this, babe.

There’s a kind of magic in showing up for ourselves.

You can set goals and still be gentle with yourself along the way.

Giving yourself a personal goal gives your brain something to focus on - our brains need some direction and supervision, or else that focus goes to social media, TV, or whatever’s easiest.

Here are some questions to help you set a personal goal:

- What would make you feel proud of yourself?
- What feels exciting but also a bit intimidating?
- What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t?
- What’s one small change you could make that would have a big impact?
- What’s something you’ve been putting off that you know you should do?

What you learn and who you become as you pursue your goal are often more valuable than the result itself.

If you want #support, consider hiring a #lifecoach. It’s another #opportunity to show up for you. 🧡

Ever feel like you’re always chasing the next thing—more success, more validation, more proof that you’re worthy?

That’s the hustle trap. And it’s exhausting.

We tell ourselves: I’ll feel good enough when…

- I lose the weight.
- I land the promotion.
- I find the right relationship.

But that mindset keeps moving the finish line. Every time you get there, a new “there” appears.

If you’re measuring your worth by external achievements, you’ll feel like you’re falling short often.

So how do you break the cycle?

✅ Recognize the pattern – Notice when your thoughts sound like “I should be better” or “I’m not enough.” That’s the hustle trap talking.

✅ Shift from self-judgment to self-acceptance – Instead of I need to be better, try, “it’s possible I’m enough now.” Growth is just a choice, not a requirement for worthiness.

✅ Make decisions from self-trust, not self-doubt – When you believe in your own worth, you stop asking, “What do I need to do to be better?” and start asking, “What do I want to do?”

Remember, you don’t have to earn your worth—it’s already yours. The sooner you believe that, the freer (and more successful) you’ll be. 🙌

You are not defined by one moment, one decision, or one mistake. You are a full, messy, beautifully human work in progress.

When guilt or shame creeps in, it’s a signal that something matters to you. The key is to listen to that signal without letting it weigh you down.

Here’s how to move forward:

1. Acknowledge what happened without judgment

Instead of spiraling into self-criticism, simply notice: “I’m feeling guilty because I snapped at my partner.” No excuses, no justifications—just awareness.

2. Remind Yourself: I’m Still Good, Even Though…

Perfection isn’t the goal—growth is. Say it out loud: “I’m still good, even though I lost my patience.” “I’m still good, even though I made a bad decision.” Because you are.

3. Turn It Into a Lesson, Not a Life Sentence

Ask yourself: What do I want to do differently next time? That’s where the power is. Not in punishing yourself, but in learning and moving forward.

Your worth isn’t up for debate just because you’re human. Mistakes don’t erase your goodness—they remind you that you care.

What’s one “I’m still good, even though…” you need to tell yourself today? ♥️

The people and events in your life don’t have as much power over you as you think.

It’s not what happens—it’s the story you tell yourself about it.

To free yourself from unnecessary stress, focus only on the facts (things everyone would agree are true). Everything else is a story you’re crafting.

That story is the lens through which you see everything. It determines how you feel, how you act, what you say and don’t say, your tone, what you notice.

Ask yourself: Is my current interpretation helping me move forward or keeping me stuck?

It’s not about positive thinking, it’s about deliberate thinking.

Coaching isn’t about avoiding discomfort—it’s about facing it, growing through it, and strengthening yourself. If you’re ready for that kind of #growth, sign up for a free consult at the link in my bio and let’s talk! 💪♥️

Shifting from a victim mentality to one of #empowerment has been a game-changer for me.

You know you’re stuck in victim mode when you feel helpless, blame others, become easily offended, complain often, and are resistant to change.

Victim mentality is a well-practiced belief #pattern – nothing’s wrong with you. It’s a way of thinking you can shift.

Consider taking a more #active role in your life. Start by asking yourself: 

- What actions can I take to regain a sense of control?
- What are solutions to my problem? Give yourself several possibilities. 
- How can I start advocating for myself? And then for others? 

Steer your life in the direction you desire. You have much more control than you think. 

Sometimes we’re too close to the problem to see our way out. If you’d like help to stop blaming others and start empowering yourself, DM me to get on my waitlist for private #coaching.

It’s human nature to want validation from others.

Since we were kids, we’ve been seeking approval from our teachers, our parents, our peers. 

It’s no wonder we often think something’s wrong when we don’t receive it. 

But what if nothing has gone wrong? 

It’s not really someone else’s job to make you feel good - it’s yours. 

We have to learn to give ourselves the approval we’re seeking. 

When you manage your emotional life internally, you stop giving external things power over how you feel.

Learn how to love yourself and have your own back, even when others can’t. 

I help #women build a #safe, nurturing, and loving place from within, so no matter what happens, they always know their way back #home.

Indecision is the biggest waste of time. 

Making decisions isn’t just about choosing between options; it’s about taking control of your life and actively shaping your future.

Some decisions lead to #success and others provide valuable #lessons - you’ll either win or you’ll learn. 

When you delay a decision, you sacrifice all the time you spend in limbo - you’ll never get that back. 

A question that helps me when it comes to decision-making is, “is the best-case scenario worth the worst-case scenario? 

Decisions propel your life forward. Let’s get in the #habit of making more of them.

What #decision can you make today? 💪