Accepting What Is
When you resist or fight reality, you’re fighting with something you don’t have control over and you’ll lose that fight every time. Practice acceptance instead.
That rule book we carry around for how other people should behave so we can feel better – it doesn’t work. What if you dropped it, and let people be exactly who they are? Focus on what you can control: yourself, your response, and making the best life you can.
When you can take responsibility for your feelings, you stop having a long list of things other people need to do to make you feel good. You stop trying to control or change how they behave, and start changing what’s actually changeable – your own life.
Living your life to prove you matter or that you’re good enough is a waste of time. You’re trying to complete something that’s already finished.
It’s easy to get stuck in apathy or feel indifferent about your personal life. You may think, ‘my life is fine already,’ or ‘I don’t really care about my growth,’ or ‘I’m just too exhausted.’
I used to beat myself up over parts of my past, overanalyzing and spinning in negativity, embarrassment, or shame.
We're often taught to avoid 'negative' emotions like discomfort, rejection, and fear, but I think that's a mistake that keeps us in a rinse-and-repeat cycle of life. What if we were willing to experience those emotions without resistance?
Evaluating your thoughts from a place of curiosity, interest, and change helps reveal your relationship with yourself. You can make that relationship exactly what you want it to be.
I started to rely on others’ opinions to feel good about myself, leaving me in a continuous state of trying to please them. What I thought they wanted became more important than what I wanted.
I didn’t realize how my subtle self-talk patterns were the real drivers behind my emotional life.