Last weekend I thought about drinking again. I went to a wedding solo and wondered if alcohol would help me have more fun.
The more you can bring yourself to the present moment, the more you retrain your brain to stop spiraling or repeating past, unhelpful programming.
How much of your current life is your idea? Are you okay with that? You may be stuck in a pattern of living for others. It’s when you often feel obligated to do things, and it’s at your own expense.
We set up these rules in our minds that other people should follow, and when they don’t, we ‘punish’ them by withholding love. But we end up punishing ourselves.
Even if it’s something you’ve been practicing for years, it’s possible to reclaim that beginner enthusiasm. When’s the last time you’ve allowed yourself to be a beginner at something?
I used to beat myself up over parts of my past, overanalyzing and spinning in negativity, embarrassment, or shame.
Remember what exists within you, exists within all of us – it’s just different degrees and variations.
Those seemingly insignificant things start to add up; we become more reactive, and eventually, when larger issues are exposed, they feel overwhelming, and we can become stagnant.
We're often taught to avoid 'negative' emotions like discomfort, rejection, and fear, but I think that's a mistake that keeps us in a rinse-and-repeat cycle of life. What if we were willing to experience those emotions without resistance?
A lot of our pain comes from an attachment to how we think the world should be — we carry around ‘rules’ for how other people should behave so we feel better.