Most of our emotional struggles are because we are afraid to be ourselves. We’re afraid to look closely at what really matters to us and to act on those true desires.
It’s easy to fall into patterns where we put aside what we want to satisfy others. I’d often worry about disappointing people, or letting someone down, or getting judged.
I thought being a ‘people-pleaser’ was good and selfless but didn’t realize how I was devaluing myself again and again. I wasn’t being selfless; I was lying.
I finally stopped trying to control how other people experienced me and instead worked on showing up as my best, authentic self every day.
Along the way, I learned to be more assertive and communicate what mattered most to me while still being respectful of others. Little by little, day by day, I developed the courage to be myself.