When you resist or fight reality, you’re fighting with something you don’t have control over and you’ll lose that fight every time. Practice acceptance instead.
That rule book we carry around for how other people should behave so we can feel better – it doesn’t work. What if you dropped it, and let people be exactly who they are? Focus on what you can control: yourself, your response, and making the best life you can.
Often our inner critic is so familiar that we don’t even notice how much it disempowers us. We must learn to stand up for ourselves because it can turn into an inner abuse.
Our brains naturally scan for what’s wrong or bad to keep us alive. It’s easier to notice and remember our losses than our wins.